Life Lessons to remember
Having one of those days? You might want to read on…
This weekend I had one of those days, you know them, life lesson learning days. I had a market stall, booked and paid for, of course Chops had developed a mystery fever. I was full of the mum guilt. Determined to make my new business work I set up my stall, nipped to the loo before the crowds came and opened the cash box. They came, they left. I made a lovely loss. I came home, freezing and hungry after forgetting lunch. When I saw the huge display of flowers on the kitchen table a smile spread slowly across my face. Until I saw that they were from my old employer. Then I cried. It’s all part of life.
Until that day, I knew I was doing the right thing by working for myself. Although my blog is slow going, the markets had been fairly steady. I felt my eyes welling up and for the first time I doubted the life I had chosen. I was cold, tired, and worst of all, skint. All I wanted was a holiday, a manicure and a whacking great gin. We needed bread before I could have something to eat.
I took to the chocolate spread with a spoon and decided to sort my head out. I stuck in my headphones put on some AC/DC, Foo Fighters and Rage Against the Machine and walked to the supermarket for the bread. Here are the life lessons I remembered on my walk.
Life Lesson 1 : Give yourself a break.
We could all do with giving ourselves a break. You cannot do everything, and you most certainly cannot do it alone. I’m guilty of wanting to do everything, even when I don’t have to .
Lesson 2 : Money is not the be all and end all.
It helps, yes. But I could be the richest person in the world and be more miserable than I am right now.
This one’s a bitch. Call it catch 22, sod’s law, whatever. I could go out and get a job, in a school, an office, wherever. No doubt I’d be thinking that it wasn’t worth it and that I wished I could work for myself, as I’ve always dreamed of.
Lesson 4 : Patience is a virtue.
So cliche, so true. ‘They’ , whoever they are, don’t say this stuff for the good of their health. it happens to be true. I’m lucky to be as far as I am with working for myself. See also; Rome wasn’t built in a day, Slow and steady wins the race.
Lesson 5 : You are not a failure.
One bad day does not instantly make you a failure. It makes you human, normal, a person, it pisses you off but it’s not failure incarnate. I need to remind myself of all the business successes that I’ve had be that my HuffPost blog, my first self employed wage slip, whatever. Just be aware that they exist.
Lesson 6 : Nothing cures a bad day like a rock playlist.
My personal favourites include; Motorhead – Ace of Spades, AC/DC – Back in Black, Foo Fighters – Best of You, Rage Against the Machine – Killing in the Name, Queens of the Stone Age – No One Knows…. I could go on but you’re more than capable of searching Spotify for decent rock! Everyone’s life needs a bit of rock.
Lesson 7 : It’s good to talk.
Just open your mouth and say what’s on your mind. Whether there’s anyone there or not. It does help, sometimes I even realise that I’m being ridiculous from hearing the words.
Lesson 8 : It’s OK to be upset, angry, sad, and whatever else you want to feel.
If you feel that way, then you feel it for a reason. Acknowledge that. I personally struggle with being angry. People often say that being angry won’t solve anything, or change anything. It will, it will change how I feel, in order to move one, I need to get the anger out.
There will be more days like this, more life lessons to learn, but until then I’ll work on these. If you’re having more of those days than good days, it might be time to seek some medical advice, you could start here.