Life lessons to remember on bad days.

You are not a failure

Life lessons to remember on bad days.

Life Lessons to remember

Having one of those days? You might want to read on…

This weekend I had one of those days, you know them, life lesson learning days. I had a market stall, booked and paid for, of course Chops had developed a mystery fever. I was full of the mum guilt. Determined to make my new business work I set up my stall, nipped to the loo before the crowds came and opened the cash box. They came, they left. I made a lovely loss. I came home, freezing and hungry after forgetting lunch. When I saw the huge display of flowers on the kitchen table a smile spread slowly across my face. Until I saw that they were from my old employer. Then I cried. It’s all part of life.

Until that day, I knew I was doing the right thing by working for myself. Although my blog is slow going, the markets had been fairly steady. I felt my eyes welling up and for the first time I doubted the life I had chosen. I was cold, tired, and worst of all, skint. All I wanted was a holiday, a manicure and a whacking great gin. We needed bread before I could have something to eat.

I took to the chocolate spread with a spoon and decided to sort my head out. I stuck in my headphones put on some AC/DC, Foo Fighters and Rage Against the Machine and walked to the supermarket for the bread. Here are the life lessons I remembered on my walk.

Life Lesson 1 : Give yourself a break.

Give yourself a break

We could all do with giving ourselves a break. You cannot do everything, and you most certainly cannot do it alone. I’m guilty of wanting to do everything, even when I don’t have to .

Lesson 2 : Money is not the be all and end all.

It helps, yes. But I could be the richest person in the world and be more miserable than I am right now.

Lesson 3 : The grass is always greener.The grass is always greener

This one’s a bitch. Call it catch 22, sod’s law, whatever. I could go out and get a job, in a school, an office, wherever. No doubt I’d be thinking that it wasn’t worth it and that I wished I could work for myself, as I’ve always dreamed of.

Lesson 4 : Patience is a virtue.

Patience is a virtue

So cliche, so true. ‘They’ , whoever they are, don’t say this stuff for the good of their health. it happens to be true. I’m lucky to be as far as I am with working for myself. See also; Rome wasn’t built in a day, Slow and steady wins the race.

Lesson 5 : You are not a failure.

You are not a failure

One bad day does not instantly make you a failure. It makes you human, normal, a person, it pisses you off but it’s not failure incarnate. I need to remind myself of all the business successes that I’ve had be that my HuffPost blog, my first self employed wage slip, whatever. Just be aware that they exist.

Lesson 6 : Nothing cures a bad day like a rock playlist.

Rock Playlist

My personal favourites include;ย Motorhead – Ace of Spades, AC/DC – Back in Black, Foo Fighters – Best of You, Rage Against the Machine – Killing in the Name, Queens of the Stone Age – No One Knows…. I could go on but you’re more than capable of searching Spotify for decent rock! Everyone’s life needs a bit of rock.

Lesson 7 : It’s good to talk.

It's good to talk

Just open your mouth and say what’s on your mind. Whether there’s anyone there or not. It does help, sometimes I even realise that I’m being ridiculous from hearing the words.

Lesson 8 : It’s OK to be upset, angry, sad, and whatever else you want to feel.


If you feel that way, then you feel it for a reason. Acknowledge that. I personally struggle with being angry. People often say that being angry won’t solve anything, or change anything. It will, it will change how I feel, in order to move one, I need to get the anger out.

There will be more days like this, more life lessons to learn, but until then I’ll work on these. If you’re having more of those days than good days, it might be time to seek some medical advice, you could start here.




  1. I love this post – so good to remind ourselves of what’s important and what’s not and those days when nothing seems to go right are hard. But there are lights at the end of the tunnel. Thank you for reminding me of this and all the things that can turn a frown upside down! #stayclassymama

  2. Oh no this must’ve been an awful day! I also drown my sorrows in the chocolate spread when I’ve had a bad day so that bit made me chuckle!

    It might have been a totally rubbish day, but this is a brilliant post! Inspirational, encouraging, realistic, honest and one that I am going to be sharing because we all have “one of those days” and this is exactly what you need to read! Thank you for writing and I hope that your next market is doubly successful to make up for this one! #stayclassymama

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      Thanks so much. I wanted to be a millionaire in the sun somewhere with a cocktail and a tan! X

  3. Love this hon and sometimes we need a good reminder of all of these so thank you for that and for linking this up to #coolmumclub xoxo

  4. Brilliant life lessons here and I know exactly what you mean about having to let the anger out! I love a good playlist too. Thank you for linking up to #ablogginggoodtime ๐ŸŽ‰

  5. Oh no sorry to hear you had ‘one of those days’…I was having one yesterday too, and these life lessons all apply to my state of mind this week too, so thank you!

    And, thanks for linking to #coolmumclub

  6. So glad its not just me. I think you’re admirable for being your own boss. That takes a lot of guts. Don’t forget that.Loved reading this x

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      Thanks Liz. I like being accountable for myself but sometimes I miss the healthy bank account! ๐Ÿ˜‚

  7. All very true, we are far too hard on ourselves. I love a good rock playlist, thankfully my 8yr old is over his recent prodigy obsession and is now into rock music so I’m hearing all of this on a daily basis x

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      Excellent choice! I had to give up The Prodigy because they made me speed in the car ๐Ÿ˜ณ. X

  8. I had a rough day today. Anya wouldn’t listen to me at all, Zach was just grumpy and needy. I was waiting for work emails that never came, no time to write a blog post. Neighbours having a party right now. Chris cooked me a meal I couldn’t eat because it had fish in the sauce and I’m vegetarian. Everything went wrong. But tomorrow will be better ๐Ÿ™‚

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      Hope today was better! I’m really enjoying your Instagram feed if that’s any consolation xxx

  9. Out of our greatest challenges come our greatest achievements. Remember that! If things were easy, we wouldn’t appreciate the reward at the end. Keep on fighting. You’ll get there. Pen x #thatFridayLinky

  10. This is excellent a list to remind us that life can be tough as well as good great read particularly liked number 8 Thanks for linking to the #THAT FRIDAY LINKY come back next week please

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      Thanks. There are so many people telling us how to feel these days, I’ll feel how I want thanks!

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      Me too! I could have made the whole post a playlist, I don’t think anyone would want that though!

  11. You’re so right! I absolutely turn to music too as my first source of comfort. It’s amazing what a few banging tunes can do to your mood. Good luck with everything. You’ll do brilliantly but things do take time. #BlogCrush

  12. Oh dear, that sounds like not just a testing day, but like you’re going through a very testing time on the whole at the moment… it was great that you took some time to reflect on the day, and think about it properly. I read lots around managing my emotions (something I struggle with,) and I think I’ve learnt that it’s fine to have the emotions-anger etc-but taking time out to reflect on and manage them, are key! Which it sounds like is just what you did. Good luck moving forward with your business x

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      Thanks. It’s tough and I won’t lie, I’m looking at how I can change something to ease one of the stresses but I do think there will have to be a sacrifice somewhere in the short term. X

  13. Helen I love this post. I hope you felt better after writing it. These bad days are sent to try us aren’t they?! We are too hard on ourselves and should ourselves some slack! We should also treat ourselves to rock music more often – lesson number 6 is SO on my wavelength! #ablogginggoodtime

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      Thanks Jaki. I love to switch off my brain and switch on the tunes ๐Ÿค˜๐Ÿผx

  14. The bad days do come and go and that one does sound like a real downer which I’m sorry to hear for you. What you did with those feelings was great, you turned it around and saw what you could do to make it better and put it in perspective. Well done you! Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next time

  15. Thank you for sharing these important things to remember. I’m not in a great place at the minute so I’m sure I will be visiting this post a lot to help make be feel better x #blogcrush

  16. “There is no money in poetry. But there’s no poetry in money either.” One of my favourite quote. #kcacols

  17. We all go through a roller coaster ride for sure. My husband always says the grass is greener where you water it. #KCACOLS

  18. Great tips to remember on those kind of days, I always find music helps me a lot too. Good luck with your new venture, I wish I was as brave! #KCACOLS

  19. I’ll have to come back to this blog on days when everything’s going tits-up. It’s so easy to get swamped by the feeling of failure isn’t it. Thanks for a lovely post xxx

  20. I must admit I have taken to the nut spread with a spoon on more than one occasion. I hate these kind of days. I like to have a bubble bath to help me with the recovery process. This is a great list of lessons on reflection though. I really admire you starting up your own business and going to the markets to set up your stall, I’d love to start a business similar one day. Don’t know if I’ll have the guts though. Good luck with it!

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